>Colon cleansing scam seekers and sociopathic individuals

8:28 PM

>I've had a very interesting day today.

First Shannon and I noticed this advertisement on my blog:

The question came up of whether or not there where people out there who just weren't happy enough with being anally raped once (the scam) and needed to be anally raped a second time (the colon cleansing). Or is it the other way around? I know the real answer to this is that there is a scam going around called Colon Cleanse - they offer you a free trial and then when you try calling them to cancel the trial you find the line is always busy. It's still funny though how this particular advertisement is worded.
Then Chris came over and boy did he have some things to tell me on what he thought about George. He really opened my eyes up to some stuff. He accused George of being a sociopath and explained how he came to this conclusion based on what he had observed out of him over the years. Some of the biggest factors were that George always chooses women that are very young and/or emotionally vunerable (predatory behavior), the girlfriends he has always go through a personality change that leads to some very schitzo behavior (he pointed out that George's current girlfriend reminded him a lot of what it was like to talk to me when I was with George... "You could always tell when you had George on the brain because you would suddenly turn in to a completely different person."), his general lack of empathy and remorse, and his tendency to manipulate and emotionally control people with his charm and charisma (never genuninely "nice" - always a hidden agenda that centers on what he's going to get out of it). I asked him if all of this was true why George wasn't acting like this now. He said it was because George learned where he went wrong with me, not in the sense of real reform but in the sense of he realized the mistakes he made that lead up to his loss of emotional control over me. He also said that George probably learned from me aspects of my personality he could fake to project a more genuine character. He pointed out that once again George had preyed on someone vunerable (getting out of an abusive relationship) and lost hardly any time on getting her pregnant, something he tried with me later on down the road when he realized he was losing me (that's using pregnancy as a means of control) and failed at - he learned from the failure that was a card that was best played early in the relationship while things are still going the way he wants them to rather than later on once the girl has come to her senses. I think it should be also important to note that he seems to avoid girls that know hardly anything about computers - which is probably because it lessens the chances of them finding out what he does on them (manipulate other women). How does that explain me? I didn't know hardly anything beyond the basics when I met him - I learned more about them while I was with him (on my own of course - he's not too fond of helping anyone else learn what he knows and will purposely lie to people in order to throw them off). I also think he thought I was a lot dumber than I actually turned out to be (as Chris said, "He forgot that young girls grow up."). This is probably best shown in the fact he used to indicate to me he wished I was the same girl I was when I was when he first met me (I was one of those 17 year old cutesy girls that had a whole lot of love to give and gave it out to all the wrong people so I was emotionally distressed and wondering what "I" did wrong to ask for it - which put me in a perfect position for being manipulated again.).
There was a lot more that Chris said that I found myself nodding along with. Like how strange it is that George doesn't hardly have any friends from high school and everyone that was his friend the last time he lived down here now can tell you all kinds of horrid stories about the stuff he did to them... and quite a few of them still want to find him to pay him back because what ever he did was so cruel they can't forget it. He also pointed out that a lot of people in states like South Carolina and Georgia are less "aware" than people in states like Florida (probably because Floridians are so used to being scammed for one thing or another!). I recalled George saying how he loved the "innocence" of people in South Carolina.
Then there's the fact that his best friend, the one person he tends to be more honest with than anyone else and often employs as a "henchman" when he can't be bothered to do some dirty deed himself, has actually been diagnosed as a sociopath while he was in prison.
Now stop. I'm not even entirely sure of what a sociopath is - I'm aware of antisocial personality disorder but sociopathy is a specialization of that I haven't ever really looked in to.
The more I read, the more I find myself nodding my head.
The main characteristic of a sociopath is a disregard for the rights of others. Sociopaths are also unable to conform to what society defines as a normal personality.
Ok, the disregard for the rights of others is right on the head. But who does conform to what society defines as a normal personality? We're all a little whacked in the head.
Visible symptoms include physical aggression and the inability to hold down a steady job.
Physical aggression does not clinically mean hitting someone. It means getting physicaly violent with anything when angry. George had a temper like I had never seen and will probably never see again. He broke things on a semi-regular basis depending on how often he got pissed off at something (like a video game). He job hopped like crazy as well, although I think he's broken this habit. What's interesting is why he job hopped so much. He almost always got in trouble for some act of defiance towards management, from refusing to do his job the way they specified to arguing with them about what his job specifications were or even what their job specifications were.
The sociopath also finds it hard to sustain relationships and shows a lack of regret in his or her actions. A major personality behavior trait is the violation of the rights of others. This can appear as a disregard for the physical or sexual wellbeing of another.

I think he's got plenty of pissed off people that will testify to that.

Here comes the really important part...

Although these symptoms are all present, they may not always be evident. Research has shown that the sociopath is usually a person with an abundance of charm and wit. He or she may appear friendly and considerate, but these attributes are usually superficial. They are used as a way of blinding the other person to the personal agenda behind the sociopath’s behaviour


That means these "bad guys" are complete experts at pretending to be "good guys" just to get what they want! What's interesting about this though is they rely mostly on charm and wit... it's a glamour, and it can be seen through if someone is open to what the guy is really saying.

What makes this interesting in this particular situation is that the entire time I dated him I puzzled over why I couldn't "feel" him. He was like a brick wall, or a better description would be a robot. I didn't feel any genuine warmth come from him. He would joke and laugh and all that but it was all like at the end of the day he just didn't care about anyone.

The causes of antisocial personality disorder are thought to be either genetic or environmental. Children who are influenced by antisocial parents may adopt these tendencies. Similarly, role models such as one's friends or peer group may also influence the behaviour pattern of a sociopath.

The mother of this guy is even colder than he is and not at all afraid to show it. Again, his best friend is a diagnosed sociopath.

The evidence that I dated a sociopath is overwhelming. What's really scary about this is the success rate for therapy with these people is so low it's not mentionable. First, they're not exactly the types to stroll in to a therapist's office and say, "I need help." Second, they blend in well with society so they're hard to detect. Third, they usually are only really honest when in the prescence of other sociopaths (which is why the most success with therapy has been with getting them in a group talking to each other). That means that this guy is probably still up to his same old tricks... and there are children involved in this, one a pre-schooler and the other yet unborn. What happens to kids with a sociopathic parent? Well, they may come out normal... they may become sociopaths themselves... or they may get in to a lot of relationships with sociopaths. That chance of being normal gets smaller and smaller with the more time they spend with the sociopathic parent.

In the next entry we will go over how you can tell you're dealing with a sociopath.

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